The beautiful ones by Njideka Akunyili crosby sold for 2.5 million pounds

The Beautiful Ones by Njideka Akunyili Crosby sold £2.5 million (inc. buyer’s premium) at yesterday's Christie Postwar Sale. The Nigerian - born visual artist born in Enugu and works in Los Angeles, Carlifornia sold this beautiful art work at the Christie postwar sale.

Why Are Nigerians scared of marrying a more successful lady? Can you marry one?

Why Are Nigerians scared of marrying a more successful lady? Can you marry one?

Can you marry a more successful lady? Is there any condition attached?

 

Its baffles me when I see a very successful lady in her late thirties still in the league of singles and searching (even leading on the league table with a wide margin of point) with almost no date or proposal forthcoming. Based on my observation I think it’s more prevalent in our society and I begin to wonder if it’s a crime for a lady to be successful or dare to be.

IT’S BECAUSE OF THE ILLITERACY LEVEL OF OUR MEN

I could remember a conversion I had with a successful Nigerian man who is having a great career in the banking industry, in our discourse he told me without mincing words that he can never marry a lady that is more successful than he is even the lady is his last option, and I was like (perhaps this guy has married one in the world before if there is anything like that) so it’s not a case of the illiteracy level in our society because he is a chartered accountant and almost rounding up his second Masters degree. 

Some men back their believe in a lie that men are naturally meant to be the head of the house so in any situation that the woman is wealthier or more famous that the marriage will never work because it means that they are two captains in the ship.

IT’S BECAUSE MOST WEALTHY LADIES ARE NOT READY TO DATE AN AVERAGE GUY

Though this assertion may want to seem true because of what we are meant to believe that at every point in time in our life time we always want to look up instead of looking down for the things we want. The very successful rich lady if you confides in her will tell you that she is ready to accept a guy that may not be wealthy but he should at least have a career he is pursuing or want to pursue but she will tell you that she hasn’t seen any forthcoming.

THEY ARE NEVER SUBMISSIVE AND WILL NEVER BE WELL TAKEN CARE OF

You find out that people that have not tried an endeavour or a venture tends to give you a thousand and one reasons why it will fail when compared to those that actually try. You can’t tell me that every successful lady have this attribute and that’s the major reason why they remain unmarried. The best gift is not a function of the price but a function of what it means to the receiver. Even a bracelet that is not expensive but was given in connection to what matters to a lady will forever remain the best gift she has received.

So what’s the problem? Why is it that the very successful ladies in our society remain unmarried?

What’s the condition that will make you marry a very successful lady? Someone once told me that she must not be the type that will be leaving for business meetings week in week out and must be ready to do what every wife do at home when it comes to house chores and… what’s yours if there’s any

HAVE YOU ACTIVATED THE MTN MISSED CALL ALERT SERVICE? HOW EFFECTIVE IS IT?

The many benefits of the free MTN missed call alert service. 

Following the introduction of the MTN missed call alert service into the Nigeria telecommunication industry, a move that is first of its kind and particularly plausible is the fact that the service is free for all MTN subscribers. With the Nigerian power industry still in the state where you cannot trust to give you battery power that will last through the day and the possibility that you may switch off your phone late in the night without the believe that any late call might reach your line – switching it on and being able to see your missed calls ASAP and being able to reach the caller at the quickest possible time is a good service that is worth applauding. The many benefits of this service can’t be overemphasized.

1.       MTN keeps you up to speed with calls you have missed while your phone was switched off or out of reach.

You may want to think that you have your car, office and your home that has 24 hours power supply to keep your battery fully charged at all times, but when you reach areas where your network is bad and your line unreachable the MTN missed call service would make you receive messages that quickly show you calls that you missed when your phone was switched off or out of reach. All this are possible with the MTN who called service.

2.       If you want to reach a person and the line is switched off or out of reach you get alert notifying you that the person’s line is available when it is switched on or available.

There are times when we urgently want to reach a person even when we know we are already having a flat battery we still find ourselves trying the number many times to verify if the Number is now available or switched on, but with this service you may want to stop dialing any number you want to call after the first try and its switched off or unavailable because you will get alert that will notify you of the availability through the MTN notify me service.

HOW TO ACTIVATE THIS SERVICE

To activate who called with notify me service send SET 01 TO 100 by SMS

To activate who called service send SET 02 TO 100 BY SMS

To check your status send STATUS to 100 by SMS.

The service is free and currently only on MTN network alone. We wish other network can take a cue from this. please note that you will not receive alert for numbers that have their number or caller identity hidden when they call. 

10 Attribute of single ladies at 32 and above that’s the major reason of their status

I find it very apt at this point to reveal these characteristics to our ladies who will have to make tough decisions going forward and will want it to be the best option that won’t end up a daily regret. We find it hard to believe that a beautiful lady and sometimes very successful in their career with a great personality that every man should be proud to introduce to their friends and family as their wife, will not even be proposed to talk more of being married. These are the attribute peculiar to this kind of Ladies that are in this class. Avoid all this if you don’t want to tell people that you never wanted to get married at a particular stage of your life.
 

1.       THEIR SOCIAL LIFE IS AT THE TWO EXTREME END OF TOO MUCH AND TOO LITTLE OR NON-EXISTENT

Too much of everything they say is never good. When it comes to the social life of a lady guys that have intention of marrying them never take it for granted.  When a lady goes out clubbing and partying all the time and finds it as a major source of her happiness it makes it hard for a guy to want to settle down with such a lady as he fears the possibility of the lady finding it difficult to put a stop to that part of their life when they are married. So also is the case for a lady who has little or no social life, this kind will be seen to be an impediment to a fun filled social life when they are married. A Guy want to do some of those things he does when he was still single – albeit those that won’t make him become a cheating husband and when he is dating a lady that won’t either join him or allow him, he will never see a future in their relationship. 

2.       THEY WANT EVERYTHING TO GO HAS PLANNED NO ROOM FOR FLEXIBILITY OR CREATIVITY

If you are a lady and you still have an unwritten timetable that you read out when your guy is about proposing an outing or a place to catch fun know that you are becoming spontaneous and having an uneventful life. I have always said it that spontaneity is the major cause of divorce in every relationship. When two married people do the same thing every time and place, they quickly get bored and comb their mind of how to get out if their current predicament.  So no guy will want to tie the knot to an impending disaster that kills the marriage faster even with kids involved.

3.       THEY ARE ONCE A BABY MAMA GROWING UP

We are in a society where men want to be the first person that gave a lady her first child and the moment they see a lady that’s a single mother they find it hard to propose marriage to her. Most of those in the age gamut of 32 and above that are unmarried have at one time in their life giving birth to one or two children outside wedlock and which makes them to be perceived as irresponsible. Some parents have even rejected to bless and support their son when they present a single mother as their future wife’s.

4.       THEY HAVE AT ONE TIME IN THEIR LIFE WANTED TO ACHIEVE CAREER SUCCESS FIRST BEFORE THINKING ABOUT MARRIAGE

There is a time for everything under the sun and when this times and season comes it is also expected to go. This bracket of ladies has their career plan worked out in which marriage is not an option until they have achieved these successes. When a lady will marry cannot be planned because the lady will not marry herself unless he intends picking up a guy and paying her dowry by herself which have been done by many and have backfired into a failed marriage because the man will surely take you for granted.

5.       THEY ARE FAMOUS AND MOSTLY CELEBRITIES

When it’s about a lady that’s famous I don’t think it’s a fault of theirs but even the famous men of their status and class do sometimes prefer to look for ladies that they won’t have a problem to deal with their level of wealth and fame. Ladies that are famous and are celebrities that are not single at this age bracket married before attaining the level of fame. The perception towards our celebrities in Nigeria is very unfair as most of them are seen to live lavish, wasteful and promiscuous lifestyles and the mention of a celebrity these men take to their heels.

6.       SPENT MAJOR PART OF THEIR DAY AT WORK CLOSING LATE AT NIGHT IN THEIR LIFETIME

Picture a lady working for a company she leaves home before day break and arrives almost midnight from Mondays to Saturday and sometimes Sundays that even her next door neighbour can’t describe how she looks if the police are on her trail on when she has a visitor. This kind of ladies are married to their job and will need to first divorce their marriage with their Job before men will begin to look their way. 

7.       REJECTED MEN WHO ARE YET TO BE SUCCESSFUL

Ask most ladies that are single at 32 and above if they have ever been asked for their hands in marriage, they will say yes but will look for a lie to cover up that they rejected on the grounds that they were not ready at that time which is not always the case. It is mostly a case of them wanting a man that is already rich and wealthy which sometimes will take them eternity to find because that rich and famous man may be dating many other ladies too and weighing his options.

8.       ALWAYS IN A RELATIONSHIP BUT WILL LEAVE IT AT THE SIGHT OF A MORE SUCCESSFUL GUY

This class of single ladies have never been short of dates as they are always in the market of doing costly and more mouth watering transfers to the next great guy and are ready to leave a strong relationship that can lead to marriage at every transfer windows, which can be akin to what plays out in the European football market where footballers can live their current club when they receive bids from a bigger club at a mouth watering fee and can do this as many time as they want before they retire.

9.       CONCERNED ABOUT WHAT  THEIR FRIENDS WILL THINK OF THEIR CHOICE

These ladies will never give an opportunity to a guy that they can’t brag about to their friends and make them envious of them when they are gisting. No matter how long it will take them to see this 21^st century or Columbia films production dream guy, they prefer to remain single. They have the habit of making mockery of friends of their status and class that settled with not so successful kind of guy and will dare not want to be at the receiving end and sometimes their pride won’t let them. They have always wanted a lavish wedding that will put the world to a standstill and be written about in all lifestyle magazines and will never see a future in a guy that won’t provide this.

10.   THEY  ARE MOSTLY EGOISTIC, ALL-KNOWING(NEVER CORRIGIBLE), AND NEVER APPRECIATIVE

The final attribute is the killer, as no guy will want to have two captains in one boat, if a guy can buy heaven and earth for them they will still be something this kind of lady will say he hasn’t bought may be this time the moon and the sun. She is also wiser than King Solomon and will rebuff any idea, suggestion or advise that comes her way. When they were still teenagers and in their 20’s you will hear them say I can’t wash my husband’s clothe, I won’t always be in the kitchen what’s our maid going to be doing and they hardly find it difficult to say sorry or the person at fault in any disagreement. This entire attribute are the cause of a woman single at 32 and above.

Have I missed an important attribute?